rebecca Selbie
Psychotherapeutic counsellor
I’m a Mum of two and a qualified Psychotherapeutic Counsellor specialising in Motherhood.
I’m passionate about enabling and encouraging women like you to speak freely about the REALITY of motherhood. Without fear of judgement or guilt.
Together we can pick apart and understand the harder parts of motherhood. The emotions, experiences and feelings society would prefer you to KEEP MUM about.
About me
I thought I was prepared for motherhood. Indeed I was. Just not the reality of it. I was ready for a motherhood that doesn’t actually exist. You know the one - in the films, on tv, the romanticised image of the mother who instinctively knows what she’s doing. Who understands and loves her baby from the moment they meet. The mother who loves every minute. A motherhood where I would put everyone first, leaving my old life and identity behind, never feeling any sadness, confusion or resentment about that. The perfect mother.
The changes and challenges that motherhood brought to my life were seismic. The reality was such a shock. Realising I couldn’t have prepared for this, because the reality of motherhood is so rarely discussed, made me furious.
A combination of therapy and learning about the ways motherhood impacts us, helped me to a place of self-compassion and freed me from the all-consuming pressure to be the perfect mother.
I vowed to make it my mission to help as many women as possible to understand the changes that becoming a mother has brought them. To make sense of who they are now, and most importantly to find a way to be kind to themselves and be able to enjoy motherhood, without the constant feeling of failing. Most of all I vowed to encourage no more KEEPING MUM about the reality of motherhood.
My approach
My modality is Transactional Analysis.
Specialties
Methodologies
Location
18 Priory Close, Beckenham, Kent BR3 4DH
Education
I am a fully qualified and insured Psychotherapeutic Counsellor. I completed my Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling (Transactional Analysis) at the Connexus Institute, Hove. In addition to 3 years of academic study. this training required over 350 hours of clinical placement.
I continue to undertake further training in the areas in which I specialise and am passionate about. This includes ongoing supervision and training with renowned maternal mental health expert and Psychotherapist, Dr Emma Haynes.
As well as working within my own private practice I have also held a Perinatal Counsellor role for the NHS, working with expectant and new parents, and a Bereavement Volunteer role for a local hospice.
I am registered with The UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP), The United Kingdom Association of Transactional Analysis (UKATA), The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and
The International Association of Relational Transactional Analysis (IARTA).
rebecca Selbie
Psychotherapeutic counsellor
I’m a Mum of two and a qualified Psychotherapeutic Counsellor specialising in Motherhood.
I’m passionate about enabling and encouraging women like you to speak freely about the REALITY of motherhood. Without fear of judgement or guilt.
Together we can pick apart and understand the harder parts of motherhood. The emotions, experiences and feelings society would prefer you to KEEP MUM about.
About me
I thought I was prepared for motherhood. Indeed I was. Just not the reality of it. I was ready for a motherhood that doesn’t actually exist. You know the one - in the films, on tv, the romanticised image of the mother who instinctively knows what she’s doing. Who understands and loves her baby from the moment they meet. The mother who loves every minute. A motherhood where I would put everyone first, leaving my old life and identity behind, never feeling any sadness, confusion or resentment about that. The perfect mother.
The changes and challenges that motherhood brought to my life were seismic. The reality was such a shock. Realising I couldn’t have prepared for this, because the reality of motherhood is so rarely discussed, made me furious.
A combination of therapy and learning about the ways motherhood impacts us, helped me to a place of self-compassion and freed me from the all-consuming pressure to be the perfect mother.
I vowed to make it my mission to help as many women as possible to understand the changes that becoming a mother has brought them. To make sense of who they are now, and most importantly to find a way to be kind to themselves and be able to enjoy motherhood, without the constant feeling of failing. Most of all I vowed to encourage no more KEEPING MUM about the reality of motherhood.
My approach
My modality is Transactional Analysis.
Specialties
Methodologies
Location
18 Priory Close, Beckenham, Kent BR3 4DH
Education
I am a fully qualified and insured Psychotherapeutic Counsellor. I completed my Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling (Transactional Analysis) at the Connexus Institute, Hove. In addition to 3 years of academic study. this training required over 350 hours of clinical placement.
I continue to undertake further training in the areas in which I specialise and am passionate about. This includes ongoing supervision and training with renowned maternal mental health expert and Psychotherapist, Dr Emma Haynes.
As well as working within my own private practice I have also held a Perinatal Counsellor role for the NHS, working with expectant and new parents, and a Bereavement Volunteer role for a local hospice.
I am registered with The UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP), The United Kingdom Association of Transactional Analysis (UKATA), The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and
The International Association of Relational Transactional Analysis (IARTA).
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